Get ready for a treat, everyone! Yesterday, my husband Mark surprised me by sending me this little gem of a blog post. I’m so excited to introduce you to the man that loves and supports all of my crazy ideas and quirks… Take it away, Mark!
Some time ago my wife Kara told me she would like me to “maybe” write a guest post for her. I used to write a lot and thought that this would be a fun and a refreshing exercise. I mean, how hard could it be, really? A blog is about sharing the lessons you have learned in life with others, and hoping that they will get something out of it, right?
I put this off for many different reasons. First I was busy. Then I was scared. I was self-conscious and thought that no one would be interested in what I had to say.
Well, after watching all the hard work that my wife has put into this blog, into nourishing her followers… after watching her successes and her failures… I decided to go for it.
Not knowing what to write, I decided to share a few things that I live by and lessons that I’ve learned in my own life. Here we go!
GO OUTSIDE AT LEAST ONCE A DAY
I am what you would call a thin blooded individual. I don’t handle the cold well, but I stand by what I say.
Going outside and breathing fresh air just makes you feel better! Even if the weather is crappy… trust me… it works!
TURN OFF THE LIGHTS
This is an oldie but goodie, hard beaten into me time and time again since I was a child.
Sometimes it drives my wife nuts that I will follow her around the house turning off lights as she leaves a room. My thought on the mater is waste not, want not.
It starts with the small stuff and what’s smaller than a light switch?
NO T.V. IN THE BEDROOM
I stand by this one whole-heartedly.
Lets be honest: guys are easily distracted (“Squirrel!”). Why do that to us? You can have every other room in your home to distract and entertain you, but leave the bedroom alone.
That means no iPad, Kindle, iPhone, games, or anything else. Your bedroom should be an oasis, a sanctuary, a place for sleeping, relaxing, and spending time with the one you love.
TELL YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER THAT YOU LOVE HIM/HER EVERY DAY
Yes, I know that some of you are rolling your eyes at this one.
If you can remember to say “I Love You,” you should remember why you love them. I can list twenty five things some days, while others I can only list one. But I still love her all the same.
Relationships are hard and full of give and take, but one thing that isn’t is the love thats there. So say it for them and for yourself.
ENJOYING WHAT YOU DO IS WAY MORE IMPORTANT THAN MONEY
As the saying goes: “Money can’t buy happiness, but it sure helps.”
Robert A. Heinlein wrote:
“”Value” has no meaning other than in relationship to living beings. The value of a thing is always relative to a particular person, is completely personal and different in quantity for each living human — “market value” is a fiction, merely a rough guess at the average of personal values, all of which must be quantitatively different or trade would be impossible. … This very personal relationship, “value”, has two factors for a human being: first, what he can do with a thing, its use to him… and second, what he must do to get it, its cost to him. There is an old song which asserts that “the best things in life are free”. Not true! Utterly false! The best things in life are beyond money; their price is agony and sweat and devotion”
I read this when I was thirteen and it held no meaning for me. But as I grew older, I started weighing the value of things. I looked at what I did and weighed it against what my peers were doing. Did I want their kind of life? My answer was simple: no, I did not.
I loved my life. I loved what I did and what it stood for to me. My peers were able to buy new cars and new houses, get married and buy more stuff… and I could almost watch their lives begin to drag them down like an anchor of obligation that they weren’t ready for.
I have had to make sacrifices (some of them hard), but loving what I do has made those a mute point. Can you say the same? If not, think about it.
MAKE PROMISES TO YOURSELF AND KEEP THEM
A long time ago, I made a promise to myself that I would never “let myself go”. That was a personal promise. First, a few things about me:
I do not like running at all! But it is something I have to do.
I do not like ab workouts, I can hardly move for the rest of the day, but it is something I must do.
There are a lot of physical exercises I do not enjoy but I do them to keep that promise.
How many times do we promise ourselves something only to forget it when the time is convenient?
It works like this: I did not promise myself I was giving up sugar, or soda, or junk food. I promised that I would never be fat and believe it or not it is a much easier goal then all three of those combined. Sure, I can eat and drink whatever I want but I take the responsibility for the work it will take to keep that promise in mind when I do.
In the morning when I’m taking my shower and getting ready for work, I look in the mirror and I know I am keeping my promise.
IT’S BETTER TO HAVE 1 FRIEND THAN 100 ACQUAINTANCES
I have met and gotten to know a whole lot of people in life so far. Some of them good and some I couldn’t even remember their name as they said it to me.
However, I have had a relationship with my best friend as far back as I can remember. We’ve been there through the good and bad times. There were even some times when I don’t think we were very good friends to one another. But the relationship soldiered on, and it is now as irreplaceable as my relationship with my parents and siblings.
If you are fortunate enough to have one of these friends, remember their worth.
EVERYTHING CAN BE MADE INTO A BURRITO OR SANDWICH
Kara has long since stopped rolling her eyes at the things that I make into a sandwich or roll into a burrito.
You have the typical stuff – like meat and cheese + a condiment, but I say why limit yourself to such mundane choices?
Why not roll up Thanksgiving in a tortilla? With the help of a sandwich press, have your holiday meal in a handy hand-held package. Why not take a nice crusty bread and apply some cheese, then layer in a creamy chowder and bake it till the cheese seals everything together? Left over Chinese food burrito? Yum!
In my mind nothing is out of bounds. If I can think of it I will try it.
So there you have it… just a few things I stand by and that mean something to me.
They may not be ground shattering pieces of wisdom but I feel like I lead a fulfilling and happy life. I’m sure if you sit down and think on just five things you stand by, write them out, and look on them every so often it will help you stay on course to being the person you want to be.
What do YOU think? Should I let Mark in on the blog writing fun more often? Let us know in the comments below :)
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