Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe: How to Find “Your People”

I’ve always loved that little phrase: “Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe.” But what does it mean? Who is your tribe and how can you find them? More specifically, how can you find them online?

Your vibe attracts your tribe. This little saying has stayed with me throughout my life and I believe it to be 100% true! The only way to attract “your people” is to be yourself. If you are pretending to be someone that you’re not, you’re going to attract a tribe that has nothing in common with the real you.

So how do you find your people? It’s easier than you might think, and I’m gonna walk you through it! :)


I can’t even begin to tell you how important it is to find your tribe. Your tribe members are the people that will just ‘get’ you. They will share in your interests, they will cheer you on when you succeed, and commiserate with you in your failures.

Your tribe will accept you for who you are. They will be your support system, your cheering squad, and will provide you with a sense of community that you will be hard-pressed to find elsewhere.

Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe

In addition to your tribe being a support system for you, you’ll soon find a sense of purpose in being a part of a support system for others as well. It is SO personally rewarding to help others, and being part of a tribe will give you ample opportunity to do so.

Do you have a "tribe"? Your tribe are the people that just 'get' you. They support you, cheer you on, and commiserate with you in the bad times. Click through to learn how to find YOUR people! :)


>> 1. Be Yourself

If there is one tip that you pay attention to today, let it be this one!

What do I mean by “be yourself”? Well, I mean that you should do the things that you love to do. So, I’m reinforcing what I said at the beginning of this post: The only way to attract “your people” is to be yourself. If you are pretending to be someone that you’re not, you’re going to attract a tribe that has nothing in common with the real you.

Are you an artist? Take an art class… guess who you’ll meet there? Yup! Artists! Are you a female blogger? Join a blogger group for women on Facebook. I can guarantee you, you’ll meet other women bloggers there… You get the gist, right?

>> 2. Find Your Communities Online

Do you remember Apple’s old slogan: “There’s an app for that!”? Well, when it comes to the things that you are passionate about, there’s a community for that! Whatever it is that you are interested in, I promise you that there’s an online community out there filled with like-minded folks just waiting to meet you are

Here’s a few communities based on my interests that I have been a part of:

>> 3. Be Active, Engaging, and Supportive

I’m just going to leave this right here :) Source

Just joining a community is not enough to make you a part of your tribe. The key to feeling the love is all about actually engaging with your tribe! Being an active member is what will make it feel like a community to you.

Imagine that you have just walked into your first day of school or a new job. You wouldn’t just stand in the corner and stare at everyone would you? Nope. Like it or not (I’m looking at you, fellow introverts!), you’d introduce yourself and get to know your new classmates or office-mates, right?

The same principle applies in online communities. Sure, it’s easier to get away with just lurking in the background and watching everyone else having fun… but that’s not why you joined this community, is it? That would be defeating the purpose.

Introduce yourself with a sort of “hello, this is me” post and then get to engaging! “Like” some posts, comment on the things that interest you, provide your input where you can, and then enjoy the fun conversations that are sure to ensue!

>> 4. Don’t Be Negative

This should go without saying, but the whole point of finding your tribe is to engage and support the community. Negativity has no place in online communities, and is always frowned upon. Remember how your mom used to tell you: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.”? Yeah, that definitely applies here.

Feel free to take it a step further and instead of “not saying anything at all”, try finding something nice or supportive to say instead. You’ll be happy you did, and you’ll be adding to the sense of community within your tribe in the process :)

I hope that you found these tips helpful while trying to find your tribe online! Follow these steps and I guarantee you, you’ll be making long-lasting friendships and building relationships in no time :)

What are some of your favorite online communities? Have you found your tribe? I’d love to know! Drop me a line below and share the love :)


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Kara Benz is the artist and author behind Boho Berry, where she inspires her readers to lead a more centered, fulfilled, and inspired life. Kara also runs a successful sticker shop on Etsy - Boho Berry Paperie.
  • Caitlin Ethridge

    I have recently joined a blog love group & have noticed a lot more traffic on my page. I love networking with everyone & gaining ideas. Thanks for sharing this post!

  • Tina Abt

    Loved this post! This is something I certainly need to work on–zoning in on my tribe. You said everything perfectly girl, thanks for the post! :)

  • This is so true! I have found my own little tribe through the blogging community and they have become some of my closest friends! They are always so supportive and encouraging!

  • Great post :)
    I have a few girls in my “tribe”. It’s so nice to have a few girls I can go to at any given moment.

    xoxo, Jenny

  • I love this! I’ve recently joined a handful of Facebook groups that have really helped boost my blogging and freelancing life thanks to awesome advice and sharing tips with other like-minded people.

  • Lilith Daly-Meyers

    Hi! I really enjoyed this post :)
    I just started following this blog and checking out the ins-and-outs of bullet journaling. So. Much. Info.
    I don’t really have a tribe. Like, at all. But I want one, so I’ve got to start somewhere. But I don’t know where. I’ve discovered that Instagram is super overwhelming for me; I just kinda get lost in the shuffle. Any suggestions to help out the painfully awkward? And slightly technologically-inclined-but-not-conquered?

    • Hi Lilith! Instagram can definitely be overwhelming if you’re not used to the format. It took me a while to get the hang of it but now it’s one of my favorite places to hang out and interact with people.

      Besides that, I think the best way is to just put yourself out there. It’s hard at first (I’m an introvert so I’m definitely aware of this fact) but once you start making connections it gets easier :)

  • Nice post, Kara, thank you! These days I strongly feel that I haven’t found my tribe yet, so this is very timely. You’re right, #1 is essential and can be applied to so many things!

  • Emily Scott

    I agree one of the best things you can do is be yourself. Be yourself on social media, your blog, and through out all the content you create. It’s nice to know there is a real person behind the brand. I almost always end up buying from someone after I’ve gotten to know *them.* That personal connection makes a huge difference.

    • I totally agree, Emily! I’m a firm believer that you should just be yourself 100% of the time, period. People can just tell when you’re being “fake” for sure.

  • All of these points are so spot-on. I’m a big fan of the BuJo community (just joined) & Girls vs Globe is an amazing community for female travelers!

    • Ooo, I’m going to have to check out Girls vs Globe! I’ll be doing some serious traveling next year so I can use all of the support I can get :)

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  • M.J. Rutell

    Kara, this is beautifully written. I have struggled with finding my online niche, but when I reflected on what I genuinely connect with, it all started making sense. I chased trends for a while, but I was never going to succeed that way. I love how you encourage people to embrace who they are!

    • Thanks M.J.! I’ve definitely been guilty of chasing a trend or two, but I saw SUCH a huge change in my own life when I put all that aside and just started being myself :)

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  • Amanda Lopez-Acosta

    I’m having such a hard time with this. I was sitting in a Christian business owner conference two weeks ago and GOD layed it on my soul to have a fellowship with Christian business women. To start a fellowship. I don’t know how to do this. I feel like I kinda already do it but I feel as though I need to take it further and I am not sure how to especially since I am becoming more introverted these days.

    I want to be able to work remotely from home someday but need to figure out how. Everyone always wants me to blog but I don’t even know how. ☹️

  • Casey Ward

    Most primo article Kara! Thank you much for sharing it with us all. You ROCK!!

  • threadbndr

    Ravelry – for knitters/crocheters/handspinners and weavers. If you are a fiber person, your tribe is there.

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  • Colosso

    If you have trouble getting involved, or don’t have anything nice to say (other than being contrived), maybe it’s not your tribe after all…

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