One thing I love about this “little” community of ours is how diverse we all are. We comprise all ages, genders, and walks of life. While I love sharing my Bullet Journal system with the world, I’ve come to realize that I don’t always have all of the answers for all of you out there.
On that note, I’ve decided to start inviting guest bloggers to come on and share how they are adapting the Bullet Journal system to meet their needs.
In this month’s installment of “Boho Berry Guests“, I am SO excited to welcome Candace Madera to the blog. For those of you that have not had the pleasure of meeting Candace, she is my virtual assistant. She keeps things running smoothly for me across social media, helps me brainstorm ideas, and took on the enormous task of being the main Admin over in the Boho Berry Tribe Facebook Group.
In addition to everything she does for me, Candace is also a full-time Mom and wife to a large and busy family.
Please join me in giving her a super warm welcome today. Take it away, Candace!
In my very first conversation with Kara we (of course) talked about Bullet Journals. She wanted to know how I used mine and in which ways I found it the most useful. Most of the reasons I listed centered around my role in our family. I am a stay at home caretaker to 3 kids, 1 dog, and a husband — and my life is busy! The wheels in her head started spinning and she thought Bullet Journaling for Busy Families would be a great guest post topic. I’m so excited to share some of what I do to manage my busy family-centered life.
I first learned about the the Bullet Journal system from comic book writer Kelly Sue DeConnick, and it has saved my sanity. No question. Absolutely.
When I was working, I had help with the kids and didn’t have a lot to organize because my kids were so young and my phone was sufficient. Then my husband found a new job and we packed up and moved 800 miles away. I became a stay-at-home parent (ironic because I’m always driving these kids somewhere!). I had no idea what I was in for!
Life as a stay-at-home parent is extremely rewarding but it is definitely trying. There are so many things to keep track of — doctor’s appointments, birthday parties, playdates, sports practice and events, school events, homework… on and on. I needed a system that would help me keep track of all of these parts.
What Didn’t Work
Like pretty much everyone else, my first Bullet Journal was a series of trial and error. I tried different things and although it was effective, I didn’t WANT to use it. Around January of this year I started to re-evaluate my system.
I found Kara’s post – Top 12 Bullet Journal Hacks – and realized that I needed my Bullet Journal to be FUN! That’s what was missing.
I followed her flip throughs almost frame by frame (you did too right?) to see what collections would work for me. I use a Moleskine dot grid notebook for my Bullet Journal. It’s not my favorite color but it was all they had and I was desperate to get started. The paper quality isn’t fantastic though, so I’ll probably switch to a Rhodia dot grid or Leuchtturm1917 dot grid when this one is full.
I use my Bullet Journal to keep track of things I need to do for myself, my kids, and my family as a whole. I don’t know about your kids but mine have school agendas that need to be signed EVERY night by the parents to show that the work has been seen and completed. So I added a those to my habit tracker.
Once the homework is completed and checked, the agenda is signed, and put back in the backpack for the next day, THEN I mark it as completed. It cut down on missed signature days A TON!
Another thing I started tracking was my kids’ activities. My kids play tennis and I need to keep on top of how often they play so I know how much I owe the coach. I usually pay ahead at the beginning of the month and then keep track of how many lessons they’ve had and then write in the cost too (that’s what the 12 is). This way I know if we’re getting close to a zero balance and it helps me budget to see how much we are averaging in tennis lessons per month! (Kids are expensive right?)
I’m not sure if this is a weird thing but I schedule my laundry. We are a family of five, so that means 9-12 loads of laundry per week.
I have two rules about laundry:
- No more than 2 loads a day
- Never On Sunday
Doing specific loads of laundry on the same day every week means I never have a backlog of laundry to power through, and the load sizes are virtually the same week to week! Yes, occasionally I have an extra load or two in a week but they are easy to fit into my schedule.
One of my biggest struggles is meal planning. If I don’t plan meals ahead of time and shop for them, I have no idea what to have for dinner on a given day and we end up wasting money on eating take-out.
Kim over at Tiny Ray of Sunshine suggested a Master List of Meals spread. I completely followed her layout and wrote down some of our favorite meals for Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner. Now I can turn to this page and pick from these “Hits” when planning our meals for the week. If we do try out a “new” meal and everyone enjoys it, I can just add it to the list for the future.
I always thought the idea of a weekly spread was redundant. In my mind, anything in a weekly spread would have to be copied into a daily spread and that just seemed silly to me.
Until I realized that I needed a weekly task list. I needed a place to write down all the things that needed to get done that week but didn’t necessarily have a specific due date.
This one page spread has been a game changer for me. I am MUCH less likely to migrate those items on the weekly task list, because if I don’t get to it on Monday I have until Saturday to cross it off!! So much less unnecessary stress for me. (Yes, untouched tasks stress me out!)
My monthly spread is where I keep track of appointments or important dates. Some months are crazy busy and some are pretty tame. An overview of my month with a list of goals or things I need to think about soon is perfect for me right now.
I really love adding Zentangles and doodles to my Bullet Journal. If I take the time to set-up and decorate my weekly and monthly pages, I’m more likely to look at it and use it because of the effort that went into creating it. I don’t want to forsake that creative energy.
My Biggest Win
The most important and frankly, unexpected, benefit to using the Bullet Journal system has been the change to our quality of life. My husband started one for work and the two of us sleep so much better.
All of those thoughts that swim around our heads and keep us up at night, are now all out on paper. Overall, we are less stressed and more in control of the things we can control which makes it easier to deal with unexpected things when they inevitably do pop up.
All of this adds up to happier, calmer parents which trickles down to our kids. Don’t get me wrong, we still have our rough days but they are fewer and farther between now. Our goal is a happy, healthy family and the Bullet Journal system helps us achieve that!